Psychologist offers tips to keep the peace at the Thanksgiving table

Psychologists recommend taking care of yourself by going for a walk or doing other rejuvenating or calming activities it is time to gather around the table.

That will help people be better prepared to listen for conversational landmines that could disturb the peace at during a Thanksgiving feast.

The recent election, California wildfires, and the mass shooting at the Borderline Bar and Grill in Thousand Oaks can all add to stress and spark controversial topics of conversation.

Dr. David Botsford wants to help people make the most of the holiday.

The clinical psychologist with the Santa Barbara County Psychological Association said, “Having maybe a go to phrase for example ,’That is an interesting point, I’m going to go over here to the kitchen does anyone want anything.’ Something very neutral that gives you an out so you can take some time away from the conversation gather yourself or just kind of have a change of scenery.”

The tragedies could help people focus on what really matters like the time spent with family.

If that is the case this could be one of the most meaningful times of year.